LOVE, LOSS AND
In 1995, author and illustrator Ilene Beckerman published
a slim but intriguing book, ÒLove, Loss and What I Wore.Ó It retraces the most important episodes
of her life via the clothes she had on at the time. The work is charming and surprisingly resonating.
IÕm not sure that most guys recall their apparel so well,
or so meaningfully. Maybe they,
instead, remember what they were driving or who they were dating at the
time.
For me, a devoted TV-holic, I
find what I remember was what I was watching.
There are certain shows, serials, and specials—within
my memory at least—that are forever intertwined with the times, the
people and the happenings around me. They do not so much amplify the time as compliment it. They form a time capsule, one that
often re-opens whenever I turn on the tube.
--I think I knew ÒI Love LucyÓ before I knew anything. I never liked ÒSesame Street.Ó And if other kids were watching ÒCaptain KangarooÓ that was fine but nearly as fun as Lucy.
--The first friend I ever had was Charlie. He lived directly across the street from us. I think our friendship was based more on proximity than anything we had in common. He was much more of a ragamuffin than me. While I was happy with my G.I. Joe dolls, he wanted to play G.I. Joe for real. Still, interestingly, Charlie was obsessed with the ÒDonny and MarieÓ show. We could never play together on Friday nights until before 7pm or after 8, once the Osmonds were over.
--Long before I knew the days of the week, I knew that ÒSaturdayÓ equaled morning cartoons. For years my brother and I used to get up and buttress our pillow against each other, head to head, and then lie down on the floor right in front of the TV and watch.
My brother quickly grew out of the toons; I didnÕt. Faithfully, while everyone else slept, I pulled my pillow and blanket out of bed and hunkered down in front of the familyÕs sole TV in the living room.
In the Midwest, where I grew up, the cartoons started at 7am. ÒSuperfriendsÓ and ÒScooby DooÓ were my favorites.
--I donÕt think, as kids, any thing thrilled us as much as reruns of ÒBatman.Ó We didnÕt know it was supposed to be funny; we took it totally seriously. Sometimes, WFLD, a station out of Chicago, that we could pick up downstate, would run two episodes of the show back to back in a one-hour block—youÕd get the super villain introduced, Batman and Robin captured, freed and the crooks caught all in the same day! That was the best.
I liked all the bad guys but Julie NewmarÕs Catwoman and Burgess MeredithÕs Penguin were my favorites--for different reasons.
--When we got a little older, like all other members of Gen X, my brother and I fell in love with ÒThe Brady Bunch.Ó Still, some things about the show confused us. Why did the kids always where shoes in the house? Even after we had seen all the episodes, we still watched the reruns. Before each episode would start, my brother and I would sometimes guess whose problem the upcoming episode would focus on—would Jan forget her glasses? Would Peter be having a self-esteem crises?
--For a time, in the late 1970s, ÒHowdy DoodyÓ came back to the airwaves as ÒThe New Howdy Doody Show.Ó It still featured Howdy and Buffalo Bob. It ran every weekday morning at 8am on superstation WGN. I loved it. I think the only person who must have like it more than me was my mom. Always eager to watch the show, I always got ready for school in record time so I could sit down and watch ÒHowdyÓ before we had to leave.
--During the summer weÕd watch ÒBozoÕs Circus,Ó also over WGN. The end of the episode always had the same running gag: would Cookie get to lead the kids out of the studio that day? He never got to as Bozo would always trick him at that last minute and lead the parade himself. I always felt sorry for Cookie.
--Saturday nights were a ritual. At least as far as we always watched ÒThe Carol Burnett Show.Ó We all loved her and couldnÕt wait to see Tim Conway and Harvey Korman break each other up or Òget tickled,Ó as my mom used to put it.
After ÒCarol,Ó we always turned over to ÒThe Lawrence Welk Show.Ó I think I originally expected ÒWelkÓ to be an extension of Burnett and company. It took months before I realize that he just wasnÕt as funny as the lady on the air right before him.
--After ÒCarolÓ came to an end in 1978, Saturday shifted. The comedy/variety block on CBS gave way to the parade of guest stars on ÒLove BoatÓ and ÒFantasy IslandÓ on ABC. We had largely stopped watching TV as a family by that time.
--During the week, Dad and I would sometime watch the detective dramas that my mom thought too Òviolent.Ó My dad and I both liked ÒBarnaby Jones.Ó ÒJonesÓ always had great guest stars.
--Ever night during dinner we would watch the ÒCBS Evening NewsÓ on the little TV in the kitchen. My dad never called it the ÒCBS NewsÓ or ÒThe News.Ó He always called it ÒWalter,Ó because of Walter Cronkite.
--In the Ô70s and early Ô80s, Fridays at our house we always watched ÒDallas.Ó I remember my mom and I watching it one night. She in the easy chair and me splayed out on the sofa. My dad wasnÕt home. My grandmother, who lived in a nursing home in the southern part of the state and suffered from AlzheimerÕs, was very, very ill. An episode was just winding down and ÒFalcon CrestÓ was starting when my dad called to say grandma had passed way.
--Even after the rest of the family gave up on ÒDallas,Ó I kept watching. Mainly though, I was just biding time with ÒDallasÓ getting ready for ÒFalcon CrestÓ that came on after it. I loved ÒFalcon CrestÓ and resented it when ÒMiami ViceÓ came on against it and so many of my friends switched to it.
The best season of ÒCrestÓ was 1982-83. A whodunit, the murder of Carlo Agretti (father of Ana-AliciaÕs
character) dominated most of the storylines building up to the big reveal on
the season ender. By this time I
knew enough about TV to know that the culprit would probably be some minor
character whoÕd only been around a few episodes.
But then, in the
last episode of the year, the writers revealed Abby DaltonÕs character to be
the killer! Dalton had been on the
show since episode one, season one. I couldnÕt believe it! I
went to bed that night still in denial—did I see what I saw? These were before the days of online
chatrooms; there was no one to verify this shocking twist.
--Well into the early
1980s, like every other house on the block, we had a TV antenna sprouting from
our rooftop. Among the reception
we got in the house, the antenna post served as a handy ladder to roof, good
for retrieving a lost Frisbee or tennis ball.
Later, we got
cable and the channels were much clearer. Sometime in the 1980s, we got a new TV. For some reason, when that TV was set up, we started getting
cable channels we never got before. After school one day I remember discovering MTV. So this is what everyone is talking
about.
I think the music first video I ever saw was Pat
BenatarÕs ÒWe Belong.Ó
--Sometime when I was in high school a local station began re-running the British-produced, Brian Clemens-authored ÒThrillerÓ installments of the early 1970s. Each was 90-minutes in length and each was a tale of suspense and murder usually anchored by some American star. (Gary Collins! Bradford Dillman! Barbara Feldon! Carroll Baker!) They came on on channel 8 out of the Quad Cities, late, late at night and I often had to fight off sleep to make it to the big twist ending.
I got hooked on these. I thought it was interesting that many ÒThrillers,Ó though written and produced for television, could easily be done as stage plays. I like the format so much that I even wrote a play inspired by them that I hoped my high school drama club would produce.
They didnÕt.
--I guess I was obsessed. And a bit of a snob. I didnÕt go to my senior prom. I thought a lot of those high school rituals were rather antiquated. Besides, the prom was on a Friday night and I didnÕt want to miss ÒFalcon Crest.Ó What if they pulled another Abby Dalton twist on me?
--My mom started watching ÒAs the World TurnsÓ the day it premiered in 1956. She would watch it for the next 30 years. She always called it Òher story.Ó When I was in high school, she got especially excited about one storyline that was happening on the program and couldnÕt help filling me in when I came home in the afternoon. During the summer, I began to watch the show too and got totally hooked. For the next several years, my mom and I did a lot of bonding over the pretend lives of the Hughes clan and their circle who were featured on the show.
That was in the 1980s. I would watch the show for next 20 years. I finally cut the cord in 2001. Still, when the show was cancelled in 2010, I felt a great sense of loss. I taped the last episode and watched it later that day just to have some closure.
--When I went off to college in the southern part of the state, I was most thrilled when I found out that local station in town was showing repeats of ÒStat Trek: The Next Generation.Ó Though the show had been on for several years, no station near my home town had ever showed it. This local station was airing episodes every night, including the weekends, at 10pm. What I remember most from living alone for the first time was watching ÒThe Next GenerationÓ every night before going to bed.
--In grad school, I would work on my thesis in long, marathon sessions every Saturday. I worked from my desk in my one-bedroom apartment on a borrowed laptop. IÕd start early in the morning and work, without stop, all day. I would wind down at about sunset. I always spellchecked at 6:30pm while watching ÒSiskel & Ebert.Ó After that I would finally log off and get ready to watch ÒThe Golden Girls.Ó
--After college, I went to work in Chicago for an under-funded and poorly run not-for-profit. The staff consisted of me and about 10 other people. Frustrated by their low salaries and other issues, the staff often took it out on each other. My first year there was the second year of ÒThe Real WorldÓ on MTV. It was the season they were in California with Tami, Cowboy Jon and five others strangers. They fought all the time. I remember thinking, This is just like my life at work.
--When ÒCharlieÕs AngelsÓ first aired in the 1970Õs I was too young to stay up and watch it. Though I later caught the post-Farrah episodes, for years I had never seen the season one episodes.
Over a decade later, after high school, after college and after I had my life in the Chicago area, a local Windy City station began to re-air the reruns in the late afternoon. If I caught the train just right, I could get home just in time to watch season one repeats of ÒAngels.Ó
--After living all my life in Illinois, in 1997, I moved to Maryland. I knew no one there but I still uprooted myself and went. Adjusting to a new state, new home, and new job was tough. I had become attached to MTVÕs ÒLovelineÓ before heading east. I liked it that no matter how hard I thought my life was, these peopleÕs problems put me and mine very much into perspective.
ÒLovelineÓ became a lifeline for me for a while. I even watched the reruns.
One Saturday night, I was watching a rerun of ÒLoveline.Ó I started flipping channels at the commercial break. CNN had a crawl at the bottom of the screen about an accident in Paris that Princess Diana had been in. I read it and went back to ÒLoveline.Ó
At the next break, I turned back over. By that time, the crawl had been updated—Princess Diana was dead. I didnÕt switch back. I watched CNN for two more hours that night, finally getting to bed at about 3am.
--In shades of another ÒCharlieÕs AngelsÓ happenstance, on day I discovered a local station that was showing reruns of ÒThe Lucy Show,Ó ÒPrivate SecretaryÓ with Ann Sothern and ÒThe Mothers-in-LawÓ with Eve Arden and Kaye Ballard every day right after I got home from work.
Who had died and gone to heaven? Me.
--When medium John Edward had his own show, ÒCrossing Over,Ó on late-night TV in the early 2000s, I, for some reason, became immediately hooked to it even though IÕve never had a great interest in the so-called Òafter-life.Ó Still, it was interesting. And, for a show about the dead, surprisingly life-affirming.
Not too much visually ever happened on the show; you could get by just listening to it. Since that was the case, I often saved up small, putzy jobs (balancing my checkbook, cleaning out my magazine rack) for doing during the show. This went on so much that I eventually began to call these tasks ÒJohn Jobs.Ó
--ÒCrossing OverÓ aired on the Sci-Fi channel. I always watched it right before going to bed. I watched it the night of September 10, 2001. The next morning, when I happened to turn on the TV and saw the planes crash into the World Train Center, for a fleeting second, I thought it was part of one of the networkÕs movies.
--For day after the 9/11 attacks, every network and station had full, total coverage of the tragedies. Every channel, broadcast or cable, were turned over to news feeds from CBS, ABC, NBC or CNN. How odd it was to flip channels and see the same thing on every one. Only Nickelodeon continued with their regular programming: the kids could watch it in the den, while the adults stayed in the other room, starring disbelievingly at the images coming out of New York, Washington and Pennsylvania.
--After I moved to the east coast, I always tried to make it home at least twice a year—for Christmas and once more during the summer. It seemed like every time I was home, my dad and I would end up watching repeats of ÒDog the Bounty HunterÓ together.
Mom thought the show was dumb.
Dad and I watched ÒDogÓ the next to last time that I saw him. The last time I would see him he was a few months later. He was in the hospital. He died in June of 2010.
--From its first season IÕve been a fan of ÒBig Brother.Ó A big fan. Every summer I get consumed with the goings-on in that studio-cum-ÒhouseÓ on the CBS backlot. I was watching the annual season in the summer of 2010 when my mother suffered a stroke. My aunt called me from Illinois with the news. It was August of 2010. It had only been two months since the death of my father.
I purchased a one-way ticket home.
In the hospital, my mom was awake and aware, if not quite herself. Still, in the first few days, everything was uncertain: would she talk again? Walk again? Would she be able to go back home?
At first, susceptible to seizures, she was heavily medicated. I talked to her when she was awake and sometimes when she was asleep. Sometimes, bereft of topics, I described to her what was happening in the ÒBig BrotherÓ house.
For the next two weeks, my mom made steady but slow progress. I sat by her bed everyday from 8 in the morning until, sometimes, 9 at night. When she started being more herself, sheÕd admonish me for spending so many hours at the hospital. ÒGo back to the house, watch your show.Ó
And that summer, ÒBig Brother,Ó that silly reality show, was a welcome reprieve from the long, worrisome days.
--After two weeks in the hospital, my mother was transferred to a local care facility for physical and occupational therapy. Meanwhile, I returned home to the east coast.
In early November 2010, she got to go home. I returned to Illinois for a week to keep an eye on her and get her settled once again. Together, we watched that weekÕs episodes of ÒDancing with the Stars.Ó She thought Derek Hough was particularly good.
--Only a few weeks after my mom got to come back home, a major seizure, quickly followed by a fall and a broken hip, landed her back in the hospital. By this time, she had been diagnosed by an inoperable brain tumor. I returned home once more.
I spent my days at her bedside again. She was heavily medicated again to ward of more seizures; my mom was only awake a few hours a day. It was around Christmas. She didnÕt know that ÒBig BrotherÓ only aired during the summer months.
ÒDonÕt you want to go home and watch ÔBig BrotherÕ?Ó she asked me one time.
ÒNo,Ó IÕd say, ÒIÕll stay here with you.Ó
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